Hi Parents & Students,

We are going to begin a new 4-week middle school series this Sunday, Jan. 31 during msINCLINE called “Awkward” on God’s plan for sex.  We would love for every student to be there at 9:15 each Sunday but also understand it is up to parents to decide if they’d like their kids to attend this series or not. I’ve included all the details of each week below including links to teaching videos and small group questions (for those who are not back in person or to review). If parents decide not to allow their kids to attend then they’ll need to have their kids stay with them during msINCLINE.

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WEEK 1 – JAN. 31
We’re starting a new series this week called AwkwardWhy is it called that? Because in this series we’re going to be talking to your students about something that has the potential to be… well, awkward! Yes, we’re spending the next four weeks talking about sex and sexual desires here at church. Because we believe that even if the conversation is a little awkward, it’s an important one to have in a safe space like church & small group.

Teaching Video Week 1 (please do not share, purchased for PPCC use only)
Small Group Discussion Questions – Week 1

PARENTS – THINK ABOUT HIS
Leading a conversation about sex and dating with your middle schoolers can be challenging, and that’s not just because it’s awkward. Your middle schoolers will come to this conversation from all kinds of places. Some will be completely embarrassed or grossed out. Some will be uninterested or unsure why they’d be asked to talk about it at all. Some may be curious and eager to learn more. And others may have experience or are beginning to have experiences with sex and dating. Whatever their perspective, remember that this conversation is important. It’s planting seeds that will hopefully help them develop healthy habits when it comes to sex and dating. So, make sure you are creating a safe space for students to share without fear of judgment. Finally, remember that you may have students who have experienced sexual abuse on some level. This conversation could lead them to eventually open up to you about that, so be prepared to follow up, support, and point them toward help if and when they do.

BOTTOM LINE
What we do with our desires matters.

GOAL FOR STUDENTS
To help students recognize that God has a plan for them when it comes to sex and sexual desires and to encourage them to choose to honor Him with their choices in those areas of their lives.

WEEK 2 – FEB. 7
This week, we’re encouraging your students to think about their obsessions and how those things can impact their lives in a negative way. Our goal? To help them set better boundaries!

Teaching Video Week 2 (please do not share, purchased for PPCC use only)
Small Group Discussion Questions – Week 2

PARENTS – THINK ABOUT THIS
Keep in mind that this conversation is about more than just helping students recognize what obsessions they might have; it’s also about helping them see how these obsessions might be motivating them to act in ways that aren’t healthy or helpful. Remember that self-awareness is still developing in this phase so recognizing an obsession or a response to it may be difficult for them to do. Be careful not to dismiss or downplay any of the things your students share with you that may feel like obsessions to them. Even if it seems like not a big deal to you, it certainly is to them. In the same way, be careful to not overreact to anything they open up about. Your response is key to keeping the conversation going and your students feeling safe to continue sharing.

BOTTOM LINE
Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should.

GOAL FOR STUDENTS
To help students recognize what obsessions may be at work in their lives and encourage them to set healthy boundaries around those things.

WEEK 3 – FEB. 14
This week, it’s all about the way we treat others and how we let others treat us. We want to encourage students to see value in themselves and other people because God values us all.

Teaching Video Week 3 (please do not share, purchased for PPCC use only)
Small Group Discussion Questions – Week 3

PARENTS – THINK ABOUT THIS
A conversation about sexual integrity is about so much more than just sex and dating. This is key for middle schoolers, as many of them aren’t interested in dating or not allowed to date yet. If you talk only about how sexual integrity applies to that specific part of their lives, many will tune out or think it doesn’t apply to them. Do your best to help them think about how they can show value and practice sexual integrity in other areas of their lives. Point them toward things like the music they listen to, the shows they watch, the pictures they post, and the way they talk to and think about other people. Sexual integrity can work in all these areas and more! Finally, remember that you may have students who have experienced sexual abuse on some level. This conversation could lead them to eventually open up to you about that, so be prepared to follow up, support, and point them toward help if and when they do.

BOTTOM LINE
How you treat others and yourself matters to God.

GOAL FOR STUDENTS
To encourage students to consider the way they value themselves and others and to point them toward finding their worth in God.

WEEK 4 – FEB. 21
To finish out Awkwardwe’re encouraging students to think about and focus on the kind of person they want to become. Thank you for helping them process not just the conversation this week, but throughout this series.

Teaching Video Week 4 (please do not share, purchased for PPCC use only)
Small Group Discussion Questions – Week 4

PARENTS – THINK ABOUT THIS
It’s a lot easier for middle schoolers to talk about others than it is for them to talk about themselves. That’s why talking about the qualities they want to find in someone else first is important. They’ll be able to identify those things in others and doing so will help them shift their thinking back to themselves. Do your best to help your few understand why it’s important to focus on themselves. We don’t want to give them a false hope that simply becoming the kind of person they want to be will magically equate to a happy dating life. Rather, we want them to understand the value and peace that comes with becoming the kind of person God wants you to be. Finally, remember that you may have students who have experienced sexual abuse on some level. This conversation could lead them to eventually open up to you about that, so be prepared to follow up, support, and point them toward help if and when they do.

BOTTOM LINE
Focus on becoming love before looking for love.

GOAL FOR STUDENTS
To get students thinking about what kind of person they want to become and to take steps toward developing the qualities they want in themselves.